I received my first mean comment and here it is:
One more time in case the screenshot doesn't load:
"In my opinion, you took a few thousand dollars worth of quality brass lamps and turned them into cheap looking junk."
If you are wondering which post this comment belongs to, it was left on my painting brass lamps post.
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| Click here to see it. |
First off I need to say that my feelings were not hurt and I'm not angry either. But I do feel like I have to reply to it, not only in the reply box under his comment, but officially with this post.
So here it goes:
Dear Thom,
I don't know how you can tell in my photos that these are quality brass lamps but what I do know is that you appear to find things in the blogosphere that you do not like, so you can comment on it. I on the other hand like to find things on blogs that I like or love and comment on it. I try to seek out the positive things. Why do you feel the need to leave a rude comment?
Especially since you can in no way tell by my photos if those nonfunctioning, disheveled lamps are actually brass.
Let me demonstrate something to you with this photo:
Do you see all the items stuck to the lamps? Well they are my children's magnets! What does that mean?
Magnets do not stick to "quality" solid brass since brass isn't magnetic. This shows you that these lamps are brass plated metal.
So let me tell you, I didn't ruin thousands of dollars worth of quality brass but I chose to paint magnetic metal. Do you have a problem with that too?
And just to clarify/justify my other brass projects like my shelf. See in this picture, the magnets stick as well:
Now see my little owl in the next photo?
The magnets do not stick!!! It's solid brass and guess what? I didn't paint it, because if you would have been following my blog, then you would actually know that I have developed quite the love for "quality" brass and embraced it in my home. I would definitely not want to paint it.
Here are also some more of my blog posts that declare my love for "quality" brass. Click here if you want to see them!
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| Like this lovely quality brass dresser (image via 1dbibs) |
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| Or this stylish room with quality brass accessories (image via Greg Natale) |
One more thing, even if I would have painted "quality" brass, there is such a thing as paint strippers, which would restore the former beauty of a painted brass piece.
I'd certainly be willing to strike a deal with you and personally strip the lamps again, so I could sell you the "quality" brass pieces for thousands of dollars.
After all, this is in the eye of the beholder.
Have a wonderful day Thom.








you are awesome- love your demonstrations! but also don't let losers like thom who have nothing better to do than say something mean to someone they don't even know get you down.
ReplyDeleteThanks Cassie, but he actually didn't accomplish to get me down. It was a lot of fun writing this post ;)
DeleteHa Ha!! Your reply was perfect well written! I think your new lamps are fun and look great! I have a very old, beautiful large secretary desk that I would love to paint a fun color. I bought it at an auction so there is no family connection in my heart. I feel horrible if I paint that valuable piece though. If I were to strip it down in a few years, it would lose value and beauty. I am thinking about selling it and taking the money and buying a lesser valued piece that I wouldn't feel bad about painting!
ReplyDeleteWhat to do, what to do!!?? :/
Thanks for sharing that comment!
~ Darlene
Thanks Darlene. I know exactly what you are talking about. I have a dresser too that I know is a real antique and I can't get myself to paint it.
DeleteWell done!
ReplyDelete:)
DeleteYou go girl! Some people believe in spreading negativity, but I'm proud of you for staying positive. I love your lamps!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Tiffany, it was actually a lot of fun writing this post.
DeleteJulia 10; Thom 0
ReplyDeleteLOL, thanks Heather!
DeleteI love it!!
ReplyDeleteIt goes the same for wood furniture. Some people think we are NUTS for painting "quality" wood. If I don't like it, why should I live with it?
You are right ;)
DeleteAwesome reply!
ReplyDeleteThanks Leslie
DeleteThe response seems out of proportion to the comment, really. The lamps are adorable, but obviously not Thom's style. He should be the troll you ignore, not the one you feed.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's out of proportion at all
DeleteYour reply was informative and positive. I hope Thom and others who read your reply learned something!
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteJulia! So glad that you see the positive in all of this! love your witty reply! I often feel sorry for people that feel the need to leave negative comments like that, because it really means that they are very unhappy and probably don't like themselves a whole lot. I always tell my students that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!! I love ALL of your work and think your taste is impeccable!
ReplyDeleteKathryn
Thanks Kathryn
DeleteI say who cares if its real or fake brass! If you like it spray painted, then spray paint it! :D I personally love the lamps! The whole point of decorating is for us to use our style not everyone else's. I love your style! You have great ideas. :)
ReplyDeleteI know, it shouldn't really matter at all if it's fake or real, right? But I felt like I had to say this because I really have come to love the real brass.
DeleteI don't think you should consider this kind of comment, but your answer is great and make me laugh! Your blog is wonderful, full of great ideas!
ReplyDeleteGlad I could make you laugh and thanks :)
DeleteGreat reply! Although, I don't think you should even feel the need to justify yourself to someone like that. There are always going to be negative people who would rather dis on someone else than work on themselves.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm so glad to know I'm in good company as part of the paint-your-crappy-not-quality-brass-lamps club! :) Here is a link to my lamp painting project. http://sturdydesign.wordpress.com/2011/09/24/a-light-makeover-for-two/
Thanks and I'll go check it out!
Deleteyour reply is great Julia! i don't understand why he/she is too brave to leave a mean comment BUT too scared to show his/her face....
ReplyDeletewho cares if it's fake or not! it's your home, you make it pretty however you want it!!
huggies♥
rea
Thanks Rea
DeleteHats off to you girl for your enjoyable & interesting comment!
ReplyDeleteThanks Suzy
DeleteYou tell him! Haha
ReplyDeleteI thought it was funny too. Thanks Crystal!
DeleteYikes! This response seems a bit over the top to me! The comment didn't seem that nasty to me, but your reply certainly did.
ReplyDeleteWhy? I don't think my reply was nasty at all. I thought it was funny! I asked several people what they thought before posting and they thought the same.
DeleteI do think though that it is nasty when somebody tells you your project is worthless junk and I should be allowed to reply to a comment like that.
This was going to be my response to Cassie @ Primitive & Proper's positively enthusiastic comment regarding her opinion to your response to Thom. But, I feel it is more fitting to reply in this post:
Delete1) Julia is awesome - AGREED
2) I love her demonstrations, as well - AGREED
3) Don't listen to losers - AGREED
4) Thom is nasty and has better to do - AGREED; furthermore, you will never be able to please everyone.
But, the point is he doesn't even know what he's talking about. Only now he is more informed than ever about brass.
5) Julia is a professional in every aspect of her career.
Kudos to another 'job' well done,
Heather Nguyen
Well first, I applaud you. I always say you haven't "made it" as a blogger until you get your first negative comment. :) Even if it WAS quality brass, it's YOUR lamp and you get to decide what to do with it. I love the painted look!
ReplyDeleteWord!! And thanks Kelly.
DeleteI've never understood why people feel the need to leave mean comments, it's your blog you decide what you like and want to share. I guess his mama never told him "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" Keep up the good work, love your projects! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for the kind words :)
DeleteHa ha ha!;)
ReplyDeleteDas war eine verdammt gute und schlagfertige Antwort!
Ich mag deine Lampen!
Ach und Glückwunsch zum ersten bösen Kommentar!
You know, haters gonna hate...:))
Liebe Grüße
Lydia
Vielen Dank für die Glückwünsche!
DeleteIgnore him now Julia.... to further give substance to such is just not worth your creative time.
ReplyDeleteOk, I will next time ;) ....maybe ;)
Deleteif its yours, u own it, and are free to do whatever u wish..mean spirited people should just live and let live!
ReplyDeleteSo true!
DeleteRude comments are SO lame!! I was just looking at your lamp project before I saw this post and was literally thinking how much I LOVED the fun colors! You go girl:) Keep up the awesome projects:):)
ReplyDeleteThanks Amy and it is totally lame to be rude!
DeleteToday, I had my first negative comment as well. Unlike you, I was very hurt by the comment. I worked very hard on the room that they proclaimed was hideous. I just don't see why people have to be so mean. If I don't like something that someone has done in their home, I would never tell them that. To each his own. My style is unique and not everyone will like it. I just didn't think people would attack me for it. Your post made me feel slightly better though. Thanks for that.
ReplyDeleteHi Lauren, I'm so sorry to hear that. Don't let it get you down. I think people should look for the positive and not focus on stuff they don't like, right? All that matters is that you continue to stick with who you are and what you like. Good luck and keep your head up!
DeleteI like to envision mean commenters sitting in their basements with mangy cats. That's just me.
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